Do human beings need sex or just want sex? Some people believe that sex is nothing more than a desire or want. After all – no one ever died from not having sex.
But the truth is there are many needs that we have as human beings that if they go unmet my not result in our death.
Most human beings need to be around other people. If you were to take most people and remove them from all human contact it would eventually make them go crazy.
No one one would argue with that fact that women have the need to emotionally connect with their husbands.
But for some reason when it comes to sex – we somehow tend to set that aside as want, rather than a need.
I heard this saying about sex:
“While no one ever died from not having sex, many marriages have died from not having sex”.
What a true statement – let that sink in.
Human beings, both men and women need sex. The way we approach sex as men and women may be very different, but sex is a need regardless.
God identifies sex with the basic needs of food, clothing and shelter in Exodus 21:10-11:
“If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.” – Exodus 21:10-11 (KJV)
If you were wondering, the “duty of marriage” literally means “conjugal rights”, or right to sex. The only people who do not have a need for sex are those whom God has given the gift of celibacy for his service (like the Apostle Paul).
God reiterates this fact in I Corinthians and makes sure we know that obviously sex is a need not just for women, but also for men:
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
I Corinthians 7:3-5 (KJV)
The one exception to sex being a need is if a man or woman is given the gift of celibacy as opposed to the gift of sex.
Christian husband do you see giving your wife sex as something that is just as important as making sure she is feed and clothed?
Christian wife do see that your husband needs sex with you as much as he needs food? If God calls sex a need, then we ought to regard it as such.