This site originally started out as unequallibido.wordpress.com and it just had a more narrow focus on the differences in libido(sex drive) between men and women. Over time as I have had people send me questions and as I covered other subjects I changed the site to TheGiftofSex.com going along with my understanding of the Scriptures that our sex drives our not a curse, but a gift from God. When it comes to sex we just need to stay within the boundaries God has established in his Word.
I don’t want to give much more info about myself than I have to. At times I may share some stories about myself or other close friends and much of this is deeply personal and I would not want it coming back to bite me…anonymity is a beautiful thing. We all need to share our deepest and most raw thoughts sometimes and I think a blog like this is perfect way to do it.
Some of you may wonder how much my wife knows about my beliefs when it comes to sexuality. I would estimate that she knows 70% of what I think, and we have had many conversations about things we agree and disagree on. There are some things that I feel 90% of women will never hear from their husbands, and we as men can talk about it amongst ourselves, but our wives will still never understand. But just because a person cannot understand something, does not make it any less true.
Another question I am sure people will want to know is, do I have a good sex life with my wife? For now I will say this. There have been, and occasionally still are times when my wife and I have had fantastic sex. But my wife has had to deal with some emotional issues(from past abuse), as well as physical disabilities which more often than not puts a great deal of stress on our love life.
So if you want to read blogs about Christian sexuality from folks who have the perfect sex life, then my blog may not be for you. But I have a feeling there are more Christians that not, that struggle with making the best and using to the fullest, God’s gift of sex.
I am a conservative Christian and my faith is very important to me. Some people mistake the fact that if you are a conservative Christian then sex is a taboo subject. The Bible never forbids the discussion of sex but of course you have to be careful how you go about it(because it can become wrong). But I believe based on my own careful study of the Scriptures over a 20 year period that there is a lot more freedom when it comes to sexuality than our churches allow. Most Christians would agree that God has indeed placed boundaries on his gift of sex, but our disagreements are about where the boundaries are.
Before I go into more detail on various sexual subjects, I will tell you these basic truths that I have reaffirmed over the years from my study of God’s Word. I believe homosexuality, bestiality, swinging, adultery and premarital-sex are all wrong, because God wants sex between a man and woman to be only within the bounds of marriage.
I will do my best to present things in a way that does not dishonor my faith – sometimes you may see me go back and edit a post if I think I stepped over any lines. I hope if you are struggling with some sexual issues and want a Christian view point, that this blog will be helpful to you.
I invite you to send me comments, both positive and negative. Just make sure that if you disagree with me, that you keep it civil.
While my word press code name has been UnEqualLibido you can also refer to me by the pen name I have chosen which is David Gideon.